I was delighted when one afternoon, Lao Wang, the man who’d accompanied us to Dr. Jiang’s gut-busting feast, stopped by. After making light, friendly conversation for an hour or so, we ended up talking about patriotism in our two countries. For the, he told me, patriotism comes from deep roots—from knowing that their ancestors had been on the land for centuries.
“I love my country because my father was Chinese, and his father was Chinese, and so on and so on, for many generations,” he said. “How can Americans feel patriotic? Your country has only existed for 200 years.”
I’d thought about this issue before, and it occurred to me that I’d seen the answer in a silly movie called “Stripes,” in which Bill Murray, as the leader of a ragtag crew of misfit soldiers, delivers a pep talk. The point, I told Lao Wang, is that Americans are a bunch of rebels and seekers from all over the world, people who didn’t have anything left to live for in their own countries and figured “what the hell, let’s try that place on the other side of the ocean.” The one thing that Americans have in common is that they’re the mutts of the world, and as silly as it seems, that’s one of the things that holds us together.
I went on to tell him about our primary elections and the political caucus system; how the parties choose presidential candidates.
“By the time the national elections come around, there really isn’t that much choice,” I lamented. “It seems like the insiders in both parties have the most influence.”
“At least you can vote,” Wang reminded me.
During our year the topic of Nixon and Watergate came up repeatedly, and Lao Wang asked me about it. When I told him about the break-in and how Nixon lied, Lao Wang said the Democrats were probably doing the same things as the Republicans, but they just didn’t get caught.
To most of our Chinese friends, Nixon was a hero for bringing our two countries together, and they were puzzled that we’d tossed him out for a little burglary. They chuckled at our naiveté in expecting honesty from our politicians. Accustomed to centuries of top-down government and cronyism, they set the bar pretty low for their leaders, hardly expecting squeaky-clean behavior.
Many years later, I voiced this idea to a visiting scholar with whom I became friends.
“I feel like my Chinese friends think we Americans are silly and naive for expecting our leaders to behave ethically,” I told him. “Be honest, do you think we are just fooling ourselves?”
“Maybe you are,” he replied, “But I wish we would hope for that.”
Maybe that is part of being a patriot in America.
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Lao Wang and I talked about wages and taxes. He was very interested when I told him about the “bell curve” of the tax burden in America, where the middle class often pays the highest tax in terms of percentage of take-home pay. He was surprised.
“America is a democracy,” he ventured, “so why do you allow that to happen?”
He was careful talking about China and the Communist party just a bit. Just after we arrived in China, Gauss and I had met the manager of radio factory, a Mr. Deng, who had been a radio operator for the Guomingdang (the Nationalist party) during the Revolution. Being on the wrong side at the end of the war, he suffered.
“I think Mr. Deng was very resilient to come back from that kind of experience,” I told Lao Wang “And he manages a factory, so he has a good job.”
“He’s not really the manager,” Lao Wang replied, “If he isn’t a party member, he must have someone above him.”
When I thought about it Lao Wang was right. I remembered that Mr. Deng told us his title was “deputy” director. Indeed, someone else was calling the shots.
“Maybe he has some talent so they need him to run the factory, but a man like that always has someone watching him,” Lao Wang said.
“We must all be resilient in China. The wind blows one way and another. If we don’t like it, where can we go? In the United States, if you don’t like your situation, you can change jobs, move, even leave the country if you wish. We can’t do that. Here, our job is forever. If we don’t like it, we live with it anyway.”
We were only five years removed from the insanity of the Cultural Revolution when we had that conversation. Nobody knew for sure how long a policy would continue to be “correct” so even enthusiastic adherence to the current party line could be cause for persecution later. Just four or five years before Gauss and I arrived in China, simply talking with foreigners would have been cause for criticism. Understandably, many people felt safer steering clear of politics and history as topics of conversation, and of foreigners as conversation partners. So I was doubly grateful to Lao Wang for his friendliness and candor.